Today’s Pet Peeve

If you are easily offended … you should probably leave now.

I’m not politically correct and undoubtedly I WILL say some offensive things. If you are easily offended this is not a place for you. If you have a thick skin and can take a joke, stick around and I’ll try to make you laugh as often as I can and share all the little things that piss me off … and probably piss you off too.

Proud Boys Controversy

Let me start out by saying that I don’t believe any race is superior to any other. We are all selfish assholes looking out for our own self interest … no matter what color your skin is. With that being said … what I’m about to say is probably going to piss off some people and have other people screaming …

If you can’t entertain a different point of view for a moment or are easily triggered … do me a favor and just leave now and go watch some cat videos.

If you’re still with me, here we go …

I know this goes against everything that you hear on the news and it will be hard for you to believe because it goes against the ideology you’ve blindly bought into … but it’s true. The real reason for the rise of white nationalism has nothing to do with Trump and has everything to do with the hypocrisy of the media. I’m not talking about the “Fake News” bullshit that Trump whines about like a broken record every time he hears something he doesn’t agree with … I’m talking about an agenda the media is pushing and the blatant hypocrisy that no one is allowed to address or they get shouted down as a racist. Don’t believe me? Hear me out!

White supremacist groups existed when Obama was elected president, correct!? You’d think they would have lost their shit and came out of the woodwork when a BLACK president was elected!? That is a white supremacists nightmare! But I don’t remember hearing much about white supremacists during that time? They grumbled about the election results but pretty much kept to themselves. When they complained about having a president that was black they were told by the media that our country is moving into a new era and their ideas about race were outdated and have no place in the dialogue of this country.

Then comes the Black Lives Matter movement and the media embraces it and makes it a top story every night on the evening news, endorsing it … promoting it … praising it. Repeating how much Black Lives Matter and how ALL white people are to blame for the problems black people face. They make a point to highlight and keep repeating any story where a white officer shoots a black man and label him guilty without even hearing the facts. Every news story suddenly is about race.

So …. the media lambasted white supremacists for their views about race but now support that view when it comes to black people.

What the fuck did you think was going to happen!?

Everything the media covers now is about black people and how ALL white people are racist. THAT is why you see white nationalism coming to the surface in the form of groups like the Proud Boys. People don’t like being told they are something they are not.

At first, people understood what the protests were about and didn’t have a problem with them. Any rational person could see what happened to George Floyd was wrong and the protests were a natural reaction to the injustice seen on the video … but it quickly turned into something else.

With the unwavering support of the media and weak politicians who are terrified of being …

“on the wrong side of history”

… the Black Lives Matter movement demanded they be allowed to paint their message on a public street. If they were not granted this demand they would scream that the city was racist and it’s proof of the systemic racism in our culture. Get the fuck outta here! So, with no politician having the guts to tell them “No. This is a public street.” … they painted the words BLACK LIVES MATTER in huge letters large enough to see from outer space.

How is this not racist!? Can you imagine a street with the words White Lives Matter painted on it? Holy Fucking Shit! Al Sharpton and Jessie Jackson would trip over each other trying to get there first to denounce it and scream racism! Yet … the street painted in Hollywood somehow is not racist. When shit like this happens … some white people start to get upset at the blatant hypocrisy.

Some people started to question the motives of the movement since it was supposed to be about “equality” and asked “Don’t all lives matter?” and oh my God … people lost their shit!

This isn’t about white people, this is about black people!”

(Ummm … isn’t that statement inherently racist?)

People like Billie Eilish went off the deep end with diatribes like this:

Uh … Billie … I think your “woke” ideology has blinded you from seeing the reality of what’s going on. The whole generation she is a part of has been duped. They want equality for everybody but the shit going on now with the Black Lives Matter is not about equality … it’s a race war and it’s being fueled by the media … not The President.

If you support the movement then I’m sure your eye is starting to twitch and your screaming …

“Black people just want equality and that’s what they are protesting!”

Yes, that may be what it started out as but clearly it has morphed into something completely different now. The lines and message have blurred and now you have Antifa and NFAC that are advocating for separation from whites and the Black Lives Matter movement isn’t necessarily trying to separate themselves from this bullshit:

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John Jay Fitzgerald Johnson, known as Grand Master Jay, claims leadership of the group[6] and has stated that it is composed of “ex military shooters.”[7] Johnson, who was an independent candidate for U.S. president in 2016,[6] stated, “We are a Black militia. We aren’t protesters, we aren’t demonstrators. We don’t come to sing, we don’t come to chant. That’s not what we do.”[8] Furthermore, in the same interview, Johnson expressed Black Nationalist views, putting forth the view that the United States should either hand the state of Texas over to African-Americans so that they may form an independent country, or allow African-Americans to depart the United States to another country that would provide land upon which to form an independent nation.[4] – excerpt from Wikipedia

I’m sure if you support Black Lives Matter then you would say that is a fringe group and you can’t cluster them in with the legitimate protests. Well … not all white people are racists … but Black Lives Matter sure doesn’t have a problem lumping all white people together and calling them ALL racists!

White people are getting tired of being called racists and tired of the hypocrisy which is why you are seeing groups like the Proud Boys forming. Black people scream about wanting to be equal but until you get rid of BET, The NAACP Image Awards, Miss Black USA Scholarship Pageant, The National Urban League, The Congressional Black Caucus and all the other “black only” groups … nobody is buying that you want equality. You see the hypocrisy, right!?

Yahoo now has a section for stories that are exclusively black. What would happen if there was a section for white people only? Oh yeah! There was and laws were written to make it illegal … yet it’s okay for black people to do it now. It has now become accepted to promote Black Owned shops! Do you think they could have a section for White Owned shops. Fuck No!

Why is that even a category!? Should it matter if the shop owner is black … or should it just matter if you like the shit they’re selling!? Etsy recently took things a step further and removed any merchandise that was related to the Proud Boys.

Their explanation was as follows:

Selling such items violates the company’s policies prohibiting “among other things, hate against protected identities [and] attempting to incite violence against individuals or groups.”

If this is their policy then why is it okay for them to continue selling this:

… or this …

Last time I checked the Black Panthers were a militant group that stood for black pride. How is that different from white pride? Answer: It’s not!

The media is playing a dangerous game with the country and unfortunately there are too many people who let emotion get in the way of rational thinking and blindly believe the narrative the media is pushing. So if you think that The President is responsible for the rise in white nationalism, I would have to disagree. It is the media that is responsible and Trump is the scapegoat!

As usual, hate mail goes to comments@todayspetpeeve.com if I’ve offended you.

Cancel Culture Bullshit

As I’ve stated many times before, if I hurt your delicate feelings, tell me what an asshole I am at: comments@todayspetpeeve.com – I can’t wait to hear from you!

Now … let’s get into it!

For anybody who doesn’t know what “Cancel Culture” is … let me break it down in the simplest terms.

It’s character assassination.

If you don’t espouse the beliefs of the Social Justice Warrior (SJW) faction then you become a target. Once targeted, a smear campaign begins to label you as a racist, misogynist, fascist … or whatever label has traction at the moment. They “hashtag” with like-minded dumb shits until it becomes viral, thus giving the false appearance of legitimacy to the bullshit they’re spewing … all because it’s trending on some search engine. Then the news media reports it as a legitimate story because they are all whores for sensationalism and ratings. Once the news channels pick up the story it is broadcast to a broader audience and becomes headline news. (News stations report on what’s trending now … not what’s newsworthy.)

All this happens in such a short amount of time with the technology we have that the person is tried in the media before they even have time to defend themselves. And let’s face it … these days you are guilty until you can unequivocally prove you are innocent! Even then, your reputation is already ruined whether the statements were true or not … and that’s what it’s all about. People have such short attention spans now and news cycles are so quick, that the damage is done and no one is paying attention anymore once the person debunks the allegations.

These people will bring up shit from decades ago and crucify a person for something they did that doesn’t fit in with their ideology. It’s all about control and pushing a narrative. People make mistakes. I don’t know about you … but I’ve made a few in my lifetime. I’ve learned and moved on. I don’t need some anonymous faction hiding behind a computer dredging up my past mistakes to use against me … but that’s exactly what is happening to people.

Somewhere along the line, there is a group of people online who have amassed entirely too much sway and decide what is now acceptable and what’s not. To be completely honest … I don’t even know who the fuck they are! Do you!?

Suddenly … a story will appear about something someone did or said. It could be recently or decades ago … it really doesn’t matter. If it’s in contrast to the vision of the SJW New World Order … then the person is called out and put on notice. At that point, the person can bow down in submission and fall on their sword apologizing … or they can try to defend themselves. A few have tried to say they are innocent and then a day later they are on the news falling all over themselves apologizing for something they said they didn’t do … just a day ago.

What is happening behind the scenes that I’m not seeing!?

This group believes they are righteous and use the premise of helping the disenfranchised but really what they are practicing is a form of authoritarianism. In the simplest of terms … bullying. They get to decide what is deemed acceptable and if you have the gall to go against them, then they take to social media and start a smear campaign against you. If you resist … they call on their brainwashed minions to “cancel” you and the media is lock and step with this narrative.

What the fuck happened to being able to have a different opinion!?

In today’s world, if you have a different opinion … you are the ENEMY! Not someone who has a different opinion … but the enemy. Civil discussions of ideas or differing viewpoints are a thing of the past. People don’t want to hear opinions that are not like their own. As a society, we have regressed and don’t want to think … and certainly don’t want to think critically. It’s much easier to simply buy into an ideology and just repeat the established talking points rather than think for ourselves and debate the merits of someone’s view point.

It has become the “You are either with me … or against me!” mindset. Society has become so polarized that there is no room for different beliefs to co-exist. Rather than embracing difference, it’s much easier to get rid of beliefs that don’t align with your own. It’s eerily being steered towards George Orwell’s novel 1984 where people don’t question things and think what they are told to think.

All the SJW mouth pieces scream about diversity and say that’s what they are fighting for … but I don’t think they even know what the fuck it really means!

If they believed in diversity then they would believe it’s okay for someone to have a different opinion … even as stupid as they think the opinion may be. Diversity is made up of the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s okay to have a different opinion and agree to disagree with the person but to discredit their opinion because it’s not like yours is ignorant and small minded. Trust me, I believe some of the opinions that are being floated lately are absolutely ridiculous but people are allowed to have their own opinions … even if they’re stupid and I don’t agree with them.

I fear the SJW ideology is gaining traction because the majority of people are so worried about being called a racist that they lack the courage of their convictions to stand by their position. Honestly, who cares if someone calls you a racist!? If someone calls you a racist then you should feel pride in the fact that you argued your point of view so well that they resorted to name calling to distract you from the fact they couldn’t argue their point effectively! If you know you are not a racist then their words should hold no meaning.

When someone resorts to name calling when they have a different opinion … it is disingenuous at best. They are the actions of a person who couldn’t successfully argue anymore so they resort to name calling in a last ditch effort to silence you.

These loudmouthed fuckers will scream at you and tell you that you are a racist or a bigot when you won’t just concede to their point of view. The irony is that they themselves are bigots by that very action!

(Maybe they should learn the definition of a word before they start using it. I’m just saying!)

This attempt at social engineering is getting old and needs to end. People can be racist rednecks … if they want. They won’t be liked by all but if they want to be small thinkers then they are entitled to do so. The society as a whole will leave them behind to their own little part of the world when the majority of people don’t agree with that mindset anymore … but you can’t force people to change. The only thing you can do … or should do … is point out flaws in their beliefs and if they are open to change then they will change … but if they are not, that should be okay. You shouldn’t yell them into submission and try to ruin their lives because they don’t believe the same thing you do. As long as they are not harming another person or depriving them of their pursuit of happiness … then live and let live. You can’t be the thought police.

Screaming at me and calling me names is not going to make me buy into your bullshit agenda.

Can we give it a fucking rest already!?

Protesting Is NOT A Job

Am I the only one tired of seeing protests!?

I realize that it’s our right under The Constitution to peacefully assemble to show our displeasure with something that is happening and I certainly wouldn’t want to take that right away from anyone but for fuck’s sake … give it a rest! You don’t have to protest EVERYTHING!

Every fucking day there is some group out there protesting this, protesting that … and it gets to the point where I don’t even care if there is legitimacy to their complaint … I’m just tired of seeing protests! If you are a protester reading this screaming:

“It is my right as an American to protest the injustice I see going on in my country!”

Yes, you are ABSOLUTELY right. It is your right to protest the injustice you see. I would never take that away from you.

But as an American, it is ALSO my right … to not give a flying fuck about whatever you’re screaming about!

There are some people that just feel they aren’t alive unless they’re protesting. They look for something to be pissed about just so that they can go to the streets with “like-minded” people and show that “they are not gonna stand for this any longer!” They thrive on the idea that they now belong to something … they are part of a group! Get a life!

There is a large segment of the population who believe protesting is an actual job! I mean … why wouldn’t they!? The government is sending them a check so they don’t have to go to a 9am-5pm job … so with their freed up time they feel the need to take to the streets and tow the party line.

Why don’t you take the time that you are out protesting stupid shit … and go to a fucking job fair and get a REAL job! I’ve never seen a job fair for protesting … have you!? That must mean it’s not a REAL job.

Even if I wanted to, I don’t have time to protest because I’m too busy trying to make ends meet and pay bills. I suppose I could go on the weekend … but in all honesty … I can’t think of a fucking thing that makes me want to get up and march in the streets. Maybe, I’m just lazy. That’s not to say that I haven’t been pissed off at things that happen but I don’t feel that protesting is the streets is worthy of my time. I guess I’m just different. Old fashioned … or maybe just old.

I will begrudgingly admit that protests do have an impact sometimes … (especially in an election year) … because the politicians are whores and fall all over themselves trying to appease the protesters and whatever bullshit they are screaming about. Why? Because they all want to get re-elected. They slobber all over the latest cause so they “can be on the right side of history” but really it’s just to make sure they’re not the target of the next protest.

A prime example of this is all the politicians support of the BLM protests. Really!? I could have sworn that a day ago you were on the television imploring me to stay inside and NOT gather in large groups because that WILL spread the virus. Then all of a sudden these assholes take to the streets, gathering in large groups and you get on the television talking about how you support people’s right to protest. What!? If that’s not talking out of both sides of your mouth and catering to a political agenda … I don’t know what is! The truth of the matter is that they really didn’t support protesting due to the pandemic but because it was about BLM … they just shut their mouth because they are cowards and didn’t want to tread into those waters.

For the record … all you assholes who participated in the BLM protests ARE directly responsible for the second surge of the coronavirus outbreak!

None of the politicians have the balls to tell you that … so I just figured I would. Hate mail goes to: comments@todayspetpeeve.com

I digress. I got slightly off topic there. I don’t mean for this rant to turn into a BLM attack piece. I’ll save that for another post.

I understand the idea behind protesting and believe it does have a time and place. But currently there are so many people protesting …. every … fucking … thing … under the sun that I’m just tone deaf to it all. If I see you in a group of people holding a sign … I’m automatically turned off. I don’t want to hear anything you have to say!

I wish you’d put as much effort into a job as you do protesting. You might not be “disenfranchised” if you worked that hard at a real job. You might actually climb the ladder of success and not have to protest how unfair life is.

United States Congress 2020

Excuse me … did I hear you correctly?

Did you say you are taking a vacation without passing the next COVID-19 stimulus bill?

Vacation cancelled motherfuckers! Get your asses back in that room and work this shit out! In case you’ve forgot, you work for me … and I didn’t approve your vacation request!

Uh … in case you’re not aware … there’s a whole country that’s hurting right now, desperate to pay their bills. They are hanging by a thread and waiting for that stimulus check and you guys can’t come to an agreement … so you just go on vacation!?


And don’t give me that bullshit about how the “other side” is just being ridiculous and won’t compromise. You are ALL TO BLAME as far as I’m concerned … Democrats AND Republicans. If you both can agree on the fact that the country needs another round of checks to help people get by … then work out the amount! It’s one thing if one side wants checks sent out and one side doesn’t. Then you’re ideologically opposed and will likely come to an impasse … but you are BOTH in agreement that Americans need money. Their money, not yours! So … work … it … out!

You’re not scoring any points with either side of the populace playing your games! People aren’t in the mood for partisan politics right now! People don’t give a shit about your ideology when they can’t pay their bills.

If you end up spending too much (Republicans) … then just tell the people complaining that:

“It was a lot more than we wanted to spend and we weren’t happy about adding so much to our national debt … but this was a unique situation and we needed to take care of the American people.”

Everybody knows you’re lyingbut we’re all used to it! At least you would have passed a bill that helps Americans and done your job. Everyone already knows you don’t have a problem adding to the national debt … you just don’t like doing it by giving money to the people. You’d much rather give it to your business interests to make sure they stay in business for your next election cycle. Campaign donations don’t appear out of thin air, right!?

And if you don’t get as much as you wanted (Democrats) … then just tell the people complaining that:

“We wanted to give you more but we didn’t have unlimited funds so we gave as much as we could within our means to get the money to the people.”

Everybody knows you’re lyingbut we’re all used to it! At least you would have passed a bill that helps Americans and done your job. Everybody already knows you could give a shit about spending within your means. If it was up to you everybody would just get any amount they want to stay home indefinitely … just so long as they blindly pledge their vote to your party.

Maybe I’m the only one who’s irritated at the fact that all these assholes are completely out of touch with what’s going on.

None of them are worrying about their mortgage payment! They’re getting paid … even if they DON’T do their job! They’re not worried about the crippling cost of health insurance. They’re not worried about putting food on the table! The only thing they are worried about is staying in power and playing politics by vilifying the other side.

The problem apparently is not so much the amount they want to give Americans in the form of a check but all the stupid extra shit they are trying to put in the bill. Here’s a real simple fix … if it’s not related to helping Americans pay their bills … it doesn’t belong in the bill! Save your pet projects for next year’s budget when we’re all back to work and aren’t paying attention to all the stupid shit you spend our money on.

I understand the problem with the additional $600 for unemployment from the federal government. You have people making more on unemployment than they were when they were working.

It IS bullshit and there really is no incentive to go back to work. I get it and I don’t like it either! But if you are going to hold up the entire thing over that sticking point … you are hurting more people than the ones that are getting over on the system. In any other time, I would be livid at someone taking advantage like that … but in the current state of our country, I’d be willing to begrudgingly look past it so that the majority of people who are struggling can get some help. Hopefully karma is real and will even the score.

I realize that the government did not create this problem but the government IS preventing many people from working … so I feel they have an obligation to help people. Before you start screaming at the monitor about how we all need to stay at home to “Stop The Spread” … most people don’t have 6 months of savings to sit back on and ride this shit out … so they depend on being able to work to make a living.

And the fact that Congress went on recess just shows that they don’t give a shit about us! They ALL sit there saying they are trying to help the American people and “the other side” is playing politics.

Well, … you BOTH went home!

No one stayed. I would have had a little more respect for the side that skipped their vacation schedule and said they were staying until it gets worked out. Yeah … it would still be playing politics because they’d be screaming how the “other side” left but they’re still here trying to work things out for the American People … but at least it would have given the appearance of giving a shit! Anybody else that just went home when shit needed to get done … would be looking for another job.

If you see any of these assholes back home in their districts … do me a favor and make sure you tell them to get their asses back to Washington and do their fucking job!

Questions to Dear Abby

My guilty pleasure is reading Dear Abby.

Everyday I anxiously open the newspaper in anticipation of what dilemma someone couldn’t figure out on their own … so they had to get advice on how to handle it.

And to answer your question

  • Yes! I still get the newspaper.
  • Yes! I’m aware you can get the news on the internet.
  • No! I’m not 90 years old.

For anybody that’s been living under a rock … or is under the age of 30 … Dear Abby is an advice column that has been around since 1956. It was created by Pauline Philips under the pen name of Abigail Van Buren. Pauline wrote the column by herself until 1987 at which point her daughter Jeanne started to help. They co-wrote the column until 2002 when Jeanne officially took over due to Pauline unfortunately being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. The column is well-known for sound, compassionate advice, delivered with the straightforward style of a good friend using humor, sarcasm and one-liners, in their responses.

I could “fanboy” all day over Dear Abby but you’re not here for that. If you’re reading this you are wondering …

So, where’s the pet peeve?

Well, I assure you it has nothing to do with Abby … No! No! No! … she’s perfect … it has to do with the people that write to her. What trailer park in Alabama are these letters coming from? Some of these people are fucking morons! I’ve written before about how there is no such thing as common sense but these people just keep reinforcing that statement. Sometimes, I honestly ask myself if some of these letters are just made up because nobody could be that stupid! Right? … Right?

This was the letter the other day:

DEAR ABBY: Three months ago, my husband ran into a second cousin he hadn’t seen in 40 years. They were close for a short time during high school and saw each other a couple times after that. I was not aware until recently that he had looked her up on social media and has been communicating with her every day since then. I didn’t think much of it when he did tell me — until one night when he stayed on the computer with her until 3 a.m. He has lied to me about the number of times he has been online with her and, if she calls or texts, he tells me it is someone else. She sent him pictures — which I saw — yet he denied receiving them. One time he forgot to sign off on a message he sent and, of course, I read it. To my shock, he was confiding a lot of things he has done while married to me that I was unaware of. It hurt me deeply, and I told him so. Recently I was in the hospital. When I called him a couple of times at night, he claimed he didn’t pick up because he was “tired.” I found out later he was on the computer with her. I have asked him more than once why this relationship is so private, and he says they are just friends. But when I asked to see some of the things he has written to her, he refused to show me. I said fine, then I will ask her. Well, he blew up! When I told him it hurts me that he spends so much time with her in the evening, he didn’t give an answer. Am I overreacting? If so, can you please tell me how to settle down and deal with what is happening? — COUSIN TROUBLE IN THE MIDWEST

He’s fucking her, you dumb shit! You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure that out! Am I the only one screaming half way through reading the letter!? How can you not figure that out? You were in the hospital and he didn’t pick up the phone because he was tired. Yeah … tired from fucking his second cousin … in your bed! If my spouse told me they were tired as the reason they didn’t take a call from me while I was in the hospital, … the next call I would make would be to Alan Dershowitz. Is this woman really that dense? Are there really people out there like this?

Of course her husband is no genius either! He could’ve said he was sleeping and didn’t hear the phone … or … I had the phone on silent … or … sorry, my phone died … but nope! He just said he was tired. I mean uncontrollable diarrhea would have been a better excuse than the one he gave … but it sounds like she’s extremely gullible and he’s a piece of shit that’s become accustomed to just walking all over her. Trailer park in Alabama is sounding pretty plausible, isn’t it?

I’m in utter disbelief when Abby gets letters like this. You really couldn’t figure that out on your own!? You had to write to Abby for her opinion? Get the fuck outta here! I guarantee all her friends were screaming at her that he’s cheating but she just didn’t want to believe them!

“My friends don’t know what they’re talking about. I’ll write Abby and get her opinion!”

Well, then why do you keep reading it?

Well … because not all of the letters sent to Dear Abby are of … shall we say … that caliber. Some letters are from people who are in legitimate ethical dilemmas that either option seems reasonable but someone’s feelings are going to get hurt. For example:

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are expecting our second child. We are facing a moral decision based on choosing his name. My wife’s cousin sadly had a late-term miscarriage two years ago. The name they were going to give their baby is coincidentally the same first and middle name that we have chosen for our child. We have wanted this combination of first and middle names for years, well before her cousin had her misfortune. In our case, the middle name is in honor of my wife’s father. The first name is just one we have always liked and, frankly, we cannot think of any other names we like more. Is it immoral or even unkind to name our child the same as her cousin’s child? Should we consider a different name to avoid causing them pain? — RESPECTFUL IN HAWAII

Letters like this are what keep me coming back for more and why I’m a huge fan of Dear Abby. I love the “… what would you do?” scenario of the situation. Both options could be argued successfully … so there is no real correct answer. Abby always seems to be able to shed some light on these dilemmas and give people sound advice.

Just like me!

Abby’s a people person … I’m a people person. (Well … sort of.)

Abby offers her opinions to help people. I offer my opinions to help people. (Well …kind of.)

Abby uses finesse and tact. I use … ummm … disdain and contempt.

OKAY! Maybe we’re not that much alike! Regardless … I think Abby does a great job replying calmly to people like Cousin Trouble In The Midwest. It’s amazing to me that there are people out there like that and worst of all … they are probably having kids! But … the world is made up of all kinds of people and I’m glad Abby’s there to help the retarded … Fuck! I forgot I can’t use that word anymore … uhhhh … decision challenged people who just need some good, solid advice.

Keep up the good work Abby and if you want some time off … I’m available to fill in temporarily. I’m just saying! Think about it.

Did you think I’d leave you hanging?

If you were wondering what Abby’s response was, here you go:

DEAR COUSIN TROUBLE: You are not overreacting. It’s time to do what you said you were going to do — call the woman and ask her what has been going on. After she fills you in, ask yourself if you still want to be married to a man who has cheated on you emotionally and probably physically. If you feel there is any hope of saving your marriage, offer your husband the option of seeing a marriage and family therapist together. However, knowing he has no compunction about lying to you or any respect for your feelings, you might prefer to simply consult a lawyer about what your next steps should be.

And …

DEAR RESPECTFUL: Please try harder to find a different first name for your baby. Although it would not be immoral to give your little one the same name(s) as this cousin’s stillborn baby, if this woman interacts with you at all, it will cause her pain. Even though no one “owns” a name, to use these two would be extremely insensitive.

Dear Abby is a class act! Check her out!

Speaking A Different Language Around You

When someone speaks another language in front of you at work … and they know you don’t speak that language … they are an asshole. Plain and simple. If you’re a social justice warrior crusading for the rights of the disenfranchised, I’m sure you’re running to your email right now to blast me and say …

“Hey Asshole! Maybe they don’t feel comfortable speaking English and don’t want to be embarrassed by mispronouncing a word?”

Save your energy and MY time. That’s a bullshit excuse! I won’t even tread into the waters of “You are in America … so speak English” because that will just piss off all the snowflakes. I don’t need them blowing up my email with everything else going on in the world right now (although I do love getting them worked up!). Inside the sanctity of someone’s home, I’m all for someone speaking their native tongue and keeping their culture alive … but outside the home, let’s all speak the same language.

Yeah! Yeah! I know … I’m racist … or whatever current bullshit label you want to call me (so you can feel “woke” and superior) … but if someone is speaking a different language in front of you … you’re going to think that person is talking shit about you! I don’t care how confident a person you are … it’s impossible NOT to think that. Especially when you know they can speak English and choose not to when you’re there! It’s fucking rude and shows they have no respect for you!

Before you get your panties in a wad, I’m not some redneck with a mullet who married my cousin demanding that everybody speak English all the time ’cause this is ‘Merica. That’s not me and that’s not what it’s about. It’s about common decency and respect for one another.

If someone struggles with English because it’s not their native language, I would be a hell of a lot more understanding if they couldn’t pronounce a word … as opposed to them just not trying. At least then I would know what they’re talking about and not wonder if they’re talking shit about me.

Even Monster.com has an article on their website about this topic. Susan Warner, the president (1990-2017) and general counsel of the Philadelphia consulting firm Human Resource Trouble Shooting calls this scenario a “language-hostile environment.”

I’m not much for the whole PC sterilization of the work place and coming up with diluted names for something … but I guess since she ran an HR firm she can’t come out and just say someone who does this is an asshole. She had to keep it professional … but my guess is that if you had got a few drinks in her … she’d concede.

The person doing it certainly wouldn’t like it if the tables were turned. If I’m talking to someone and that person enters the room and we instantly stop talking … what are they going to think? Exactly! We were talking shit about them! Otherwise … we would have just continued what we were saying. That’s similar to walking in on two people talking another language and they don’t start speaking English when you arrive.

But …

They were talking in their language before you got there!

Yes, you are absolutely right! But guess what? I’m there now, so the polite thing to do would be to switch to English so I can understand what’s being said. Yeah, there’s no law saying they have to but in the scenario I pointed out if someone walks in and I stop talking, they are automatically going to think I was talking shit … even if I wasn’t. So the same applies to someone speaking a different language when I walk in. They may just be having a normal conversation but switching to English when I walk in is just polite.

The Incomplete Email Reply

You sit down and take the time to carefully compose an email. You have a couple topics that you want to address and need answers to. For the sake of time, you put everything together in one email so the recipient can read it and address all your questions rather than going back and forth numerous times in some long drawn out thread.

You make sure to use the return key on your keyboard to put it in an outline format so it’s easy to read … rather than just some huge run on paragraph. Each question is on a separate line for easy viewing. You proof read it. You proof read it … again. It’s a pretty damn good email! Short. Concise. To the point. You send it off.

A short time passes and you hear *DING!*

You’ve got mail.

You open their response to find out that the only question they have answered is the last question you asked and the other 4 questions were completely ignored! What the fuck!?

If it’s family … then it’s no big deal. You just reply back …

“Hey dumb shit! Maybe you didn’t see that I asked you a couple questions in that email and you ignored all but one of them! I always knew you were stupid but you don’t have to keep proving it! Reply back again and answer ALL the fucking questions! By the way … tell your Mom I said Hello.

That works fine if it’s family … but the problem arises when it’s for work!

You feel exactly the same way but you can’t reply like that in a professional setting … even though you’d like to! So … after you finish the silent rant in your head about what a dumb shit this person is … you try to respond in a way that comes across professional and without showing any of your condescension in your tone or words.

Do you just ask one question at a time and wait for a reply before asking another … since obviously this person can’t handle more than one idea at a time?

Do you ask the other 4 questions again in the same manner … hoping this time they’ll actually see them and answer them?

Do you try to ask the questions in a different manner … because obviously communicating is not this person’s strong point?

I don’t know the correct answer because every scenario will be different based upon the topic and the personality on the other end. What I do know … is that I have to proof my response many times before hitting the send button to make sure my indignation does not permeate through in my response!

Whichever way you decide, their response will show you their true colors. If they have character, they will notice when you ask again that they missed the questions the first time and own up to their oversight and apologize for not answering all the questions. If the person has a self-inflated ego they will gloss over the fact they ignored your questions and just answer them the second time you ask. If the person is just a fucking idiot they won’t even notice they’ve completely ignored a large part of your email and then you know you’re never going to get the answers you need.

I just don’t understand how a person does this!? I mean it’s not like it was a conversation that they could have possibly forgotten! It’s a fucking email in black and white that they can read and RE-READ again to make sure they’ve answered all your questions!

I get it if you’ve written an email that rivals A la recherche du temps perdu in length … obviously some points could be missed … but if it’s not a very long email then there’s no excuse not to address everything in the email!

Show some couth for fuck’s sake! I took the time to sit down and carefully craft my message to you in a clear, concise manner so that we can communicate effectively and efficiently in an effort not to waste your time with the constant back and forth that I know gets on MY nerves.

The least you can do is take the time to fucking read it and answer all my questions rather than scan it half-ass and blow me off with an answer that shows you put as little effort into reading it as possible.

What it’s really saying is that you’re not important to them and they couldn’t care less about you … or … they’re a fucking idiot!

1st Amendment and Protests

Not one to shy away from controversy … let’s get into it.

Before we get started … hate mail goes to: comments@todayspetpeeve.com

Let me start off by saying I believe what happened to George Floyd was a tragedy and a blatant misuse of force by Officer Derek Chauvin. Mr. Floyd was in custody and there was no reason for the police officer to keep his knee on Floyd’s neck for that excessive amount of time after he was restrained … especially when Floyd was saying he can’t breathe.

I don’t know Officer Chauvin to make any sort of judgement on why he felt the need to do that. Did he do it because he’s racist and Mr. Floyd was black … or did he do it because he just saw him as another criminal. I don’t know … and neither do you! The only person who truly knows the answer is Derek Chauvin. If you say you know what his intentions were then you are full of shit and making assumptions to fit your narrative.

I believe that police officers have a very difficult job … especially in today’s “hate the police” culture and the growing empowerment to be argumentative by segments of the population when they are pulled over. I’m not sure when it became okay to tell an officer that “I don’t have to exit the vehicle!” but is seems to be happening more and more. Gone are the days when you did what the officer asked and respected the position they were in.

Every stop an officer makes has the potential to turn deadly with a growing segment that are ready and willing to attack cops just for doing their job. The only people I feel qualified to truly judge officers actions are other officers who have faced similar situations. If you work a 9-5 job behind a desk, it’s really easy to pass judgement and say what an officer should and shouldn’t have done but until you’ve been in a situation where someone wants to kill you … you don’t really know how you’d react! The only thing you have to worry about at your job is getting a paper cut from your TPS reports. Cops could die doing their job and never make it home to their families. Your paper cut will heal … they risk dying.

I’m always of the mindset that I want to see the entire video to make up my mind and not blindly believe edited footage that steer a watcher towards a specific narrative. From what I saw of the extended video, Derek Chauvin was out of line and on a power trip. Again, I’m not an officer and I wasn’t there but from a layman’s point of view … it appeared Chauvin used excessive force. Some videos speak for themselves and I believe this is one of them. When you watch the entire video and not some edited version, it seems obvious Derek Chauvin went rogue and killed George Floyd.

In my opinion though, Officer Chauvin is the only one responsible for Mr. Floyd’s death. I know it’s not a popular opinion but I’m not interested in being popular. The two officers who initially handled the altercation had been on the job 4 days. From what I saw, they had the situation under control and then an officer with more seniority (Chauvin) comes on the scene and takes control. The rookie officers asked if they should turn Mr. Floyd on his side so he can breathe and Chauvin said “No!” I don’t know about you but I don’t think many people on their 4th day of work would feel comfortable telling someone how to do their job.

Imagine Mr. Floyd did not die. The next day when the rookie officers get to work they would be called into the office and fired for going against an officer with seniority. You can tell me I’m full of shit … but you know damn well that scenario is very plausible.

Upon people seeing this video and it going viral, people became enraged. I can totally understand why. What happens from that point forward is where I have a problem with “the movement” that is now happening.

It doesn’t matter how pissed you are … burning down a police station isn’t justified. Anybody who gets behind the statement …

“We protested peacefully and you didn’t listen, so this is what you get!”

… is a person letting their emotions get the better of them and not using their head. They are letting their emotions take over and that can be dangerous. That is mob mentality and is in no way constructive. Reasoning like that turns people off to your message and makes many people view your message in a negative manner.

If your message is not getting heard … then you figure out a different way of saying it so that it is heard. When you start justifying violence to get your point across … how are you any different from Derek Chauvin!? He wasn’t getting the response he wanted, so he got violent. Is that the comparison you want? I’m guessing probably not … but that’s how I view you if you are behind burning down a police station to “get your message across.”

Hate begets hate; violence begets violence; toughness begets a greater toughness. We must meet the forces of hate with the power of love… Our aim must never be to defeat or humiliate the white man, but to win his friendship and understanding. – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Obviously peaceful protests take a lot longer … but that is what brings people over to your way of thinking. Not destroying things! For all the protesters starting to shake in anger right now yelling …

“Those people aren’t part of the protest. Stop lumping them in with us!”

You have no problem lumping all police officers together with Derek Chauvin! You’re saying all police are violent based upon the actions of a few bad cops … so why can’t I lump the criminals and looters in with your protest!? Yeah! It seems like bullshit that I won’t separate the two, huh? Well it’s bullshit when you paint all cops with a broad brush and say all cops are violent.

I’m not saying there aren’t bad cops … sure there are … but I believe the majority are caring people. When you say all cops are violent … it’s no different than me saying all protestors are looters. The majority of both are peaceful but the few bad ones spoil the whole bunch.

Now that we can both agree that it’s not fair to paint groups with a broad brush … let’s talk about “the movement” and how it’s not okay to have a different opinion anymore.

While the 1st Amendment protects your right to go out and protest and chant your point of view … it also protects people’s point of view that don’t align with yours! If you’re out protesting right now, you don’t OWN the 1st Amendment … it extends to everyone! If someone has a point of view different from yours, it has to be okay for them to have it … even if you think it’s ridiculous! Trust me … there are people who think your point of view is ridiculous but they don’t say anything because currently no other viewpoint is acceptable except the one the protesters have!

Ask Drew Brees! He found out that he’s not allowed to have a different opinion from the “collective opinion” right now! He simply said he will never agree with anybody disrespecting the flag of the United States of America in regards to Kaepernick kneeling during the National Anthem.

“I love and respect my teammates, and I stand right there with them in regard to fighting for racial equality and justice, I also stand with my grandfathers, who risked their lives for this country, and countless other military men and women who do it on a daily basis.” – Drew Brees

His teammate Malcom Jenkins said that he was “hurt” by Brees’ comments and that they were “extremely self-centered.”

“Our communities are under siege, and we need help and what you’re telling us is don’t ask for help that way. Ask for it a different way. I can’t listen to it when you ask that way. We’re done asking, Drew. And people who share your sentiments, who express those and push them throughout the world, the airwaves, are the problem. And it’s unfortunate because I considered you a friend. I looked up to you. You’re somebody who I had a great deal of respect for. But sometimes you should shut the fuck up.” – Malcom Jenkins

This is part of the problem. If someone doesn’t just blindly fall into line with the agenda currently being pushed … then simply put … they are the enemy! Not someone who has a different opinion … THE ENEMY!

The “You’re either with us or you’re against us!” mentality is bullshit and needs to stop! What happened to civil discourse!? I thought America was celebrated for it’s diversity and acceptance. Apparently that’s only if you accept the message the protesters are serving up.

The attitude of the protests right now are eerily totalitarian. There is no room for any thought other than the one they are promoting! Why can’t someone disagree with you? Can’t we have different opinions co-exist at the same time and both be legitimate? Isn’t that what America is all about!? The answer is apparently NO!

The newest slogan in the protest is: White Silence is Violence.

Oh, the “protester” that came up with that little rhyme must have been so proud of themselves! Write it on the cardboard with a Sharpie and let’s walk it through the streets. Although I understand the sentiment behind the clever little rhyme … it’s a little misguided and complete bullshit!

Maybe people are just stressed the fuck out because they lost their jobs due to the Coronavirus and can’t pay their bills … so they’re worrying about that? Maybe people just aren’t into protesting? Maybe white people tried to say something supportive but got lectured by “the movement” and told they were “culturally insensitive” or it “wasn’t good enough.”

Ask Madonna or Heidi Klum!

Madonna is not racist. She adopted children who are black. Heidi Klum married Seal and had children with him. These are not things a “racist person” would do! So “the movement” gets upset that white people don’t speak up and when they do … their support is critiqued and they are cut down. The definition of racist is changing so much lately, it’s hard to keep track of. I think it boils down to if you don’t parrot what BLM is saying – you’re racist.

Did you ever think that maybe white people are just silent because even when you try to show support you are lambasted if you don’t show it correctly! What the fuck do you want!? To equate someone not saying something to violence is completely asinine! Whomever came up with that little slogan can Fuck Off! What’s really happening is that “the movement” wants you to say something so they can decide if you’re with them or if your … the enemy!

It’s time to chill the fuck out!

I completely get behind people’s rights to speak out about what they feel are injustices but the current “movement” that is happening is nothing but a bunch of bullies using intimidation … and I can’t stand bullies! Continue to protest because the cause is worth it but you need to calm down and think about what is going to get your message heard. Being aggressive and confrontational is only going to turn a lot of people off to the message you want them to hear. Seeing businesses being looted by criminals that hide in your protest are not helping your cause either. Stop saying “They aren’t part of the peaceful protest!” but guess what … you’re giving them cover and they’re spoiling your “peaceful” protest!

It’s time to approach this a different way … OR … just continue doing things the way you’ve been doing them. I’m old … what the fuck do I know!?

What I do know .. is that I’m getting fucking tired of my city having to board up it’s stores and making it look like a third world country. I’m tired of how small businesses are being ransacked and putting people out of work because the protests make the perfect cover for criminals to steal stuff. I know that I’m growing tired of the unrest and becoming tone deaf to the message … and I’m really tired of the politicizing of every fucking issue under the Sun!

Oh … and I know I’m ready for 2020 to be over.

Poor-Timed Ambition

Maybe this is just a problem I have … but I’m betting there are a few of you out there that encounter the same thing. It’s what I call Poor-Timed Ambition. That’s when you feel like crossing something off your “to do list” … but can’t do it at the time you are motivated.

Let me give you an example:

You wake up Wednesday and for whatever reason you feel like you can take on the world! You feel motivated to clean out the garage this weekend because shit has been stacking up everywhere and it’s been bugging you for a while now.

Okay! This Saturday … I’m cleaning the garage!”

Thursday and Friday you wake up feeling pretty good. You’re still motivated to clean out the garage but you have to go to work. So … you at least start thinking about how you will tackle it on Saturday. You figure you’ll wake up, have coffee and then dig in! It’s going to feel so good to finally get that done!

Saturday rolls around and suddenly that “take on the world attitude” has subsided. You wake up a little out of sorts. You know what you’re supposed to do today because you’ve been planning it since Wednesday … but you just don’t feel like doing it today.

You make your coffee and figure the caffeine jolt will get you motivated! As you sit there drinking your coffee … you start to come up with every reason why you shouldn’t clean out the garage. Then by the time you finish your coffee … you have convinced yourself that it can wait. You just don’t feel like cleaning it out! The weekend passes and the garage looks exactly the same! You’ve justified not getting it done though … because you’ll do it next weekend! Six months pass … and that fucking garage still looks exactly the same.

Why can’t I ever get that Wednesday motivation on Saturday!?

“There’s so much I want to do … but work prevents me from accomplishing it!”

All week long I feel motivated to do stuff … but can’t because I have to work. Then when the weekend rolls around and I have time to do it … I lose all motivation. I’m beginning to realize that I’m either moody … or … I’m just lazy as fuck! When I actually have the time to accomplish something I find every excuse not to do it!

Here’s the thing though … I always feel motivated to do something during the week when I have to work! I rarely have that “ambition” on the weekend! Maybe it’s just my brain helping me out to not feel like such a loser!? It knows I’m a lazy piece of shit so it gives me that motivation during the week … knowing I can’t act on it … to make me feel like I’m a do’er and feel better about myself.

It must be a self-preservation tactic that my brain has created over time to convince me that I’m not lazy … even though I am. On occasion there are times where I’ve said “Fuck it!” … and called out at work to do something. I stay home and I actually do work on it … but I can’t do that all the time! My circadian clock needs adjusting! Why can’t I have that ambitious feeling on the weekends and keep the lazy feelings for when I’m at work!?

If you have young kids, then your weekends are probably filled taking them to ball games or something so you can justify not getting things done. (I know I did!) My kids are older now and doing their own thing … so I really don’t have any excuse anymore!

All my ambition occurs during the week and inconveniently fades by the weekend. Then mid week it comes back and I convince myself that this weekend I’ll get it done! Saturday rolls around and like clockwork … I’m not feeling it. Fuck!

Not this weekend though!! It’s Wednesday and I’m feeling motivated! Now that I’ve recognized this pattern that I have … I will persevere and overcome! Hopefully if you have the same problem, I’ve also inspired you to work on that “To Do List” this weekend! You go get ’em tiger … I’ll probably end up going to the movies.

Decrepit Old Man Syndrome

What is that you ask?

That is when a healthy man suddenly needs a cane or walker to get around. The last time you saw them they were fine and now they are frail and barely clinging to life. They need a person on each side to hold them up because they are shaky on their feet and need help just to walk. This usually surfaces when someone has to go to court.

Most recently it was on full display with Harvey Weinstein … and Bill Cosby before him.

We’ll start with Harvey Weinstein:

“Take me to court … please! I’m rich and powerful. You can’t touch me.”

“Wait! What? I can’t believe you’re really going through with this.”

Lawyer: “This isn’t looking good. We need to make him look less guilty. Have him act like he’s an old man.”

Lawyer: “That didn’t work! Have him use a walker when he comes into court next time … and tell him to sell it!

There’s something about having to go to court that makes men age quickly. He’s walking around just fine in public when cameras capture him at the night clubs but suddenly he needs a walker when he comes into court. The lawyers even put the tennis balls on the walker’s feet like your Grandpa used to have! Get the fuck out of here! I don’t think anybody’s buying it Harvey!

Then there’s Bill Cosby:

“I’m getting so tired of having to appear at these court cases! Let’s get this over with!”

“Shit! This is really going to go to trial!? I can’t pay this one off?”

“It’s okay … my lawyer says I have nothing to worry about.”

“I love you too! You know I’m innocent!”

Lawyer: “It’s not looking good! You might be found guilty! You’re an actor, right? Next time you come to court bring a cane and sell it!”

Look at that change! From arrogant, defiant and got this beat … to frail old man almost overnight! It’s unreal the change that occurs from the first court appearance when he thinks he is getting off … to the end when the verdict will be read! It’s like he’s aged 20 years. I guarantee if the verdict would have been not guilty he would have stood up, dropped the cane and defiantly walked out of the courtroom just fine.

These two are prime examples of The Decrepit Old Man Syndrome. It’s a hoax to try to play on people’s emotions … and it’s laughable! They were fine up until they had to go to court. They weren’t frail when they were … (sorry, I can’t afford to be sued for slander) … allegedly committing the crimes they are accused of … so why are you going to act this way now? Oh yeah … you don’t want to go to jail and will try anything to avoid it. Do you really think the jurors are going to be swayed by this shit!? It just shows your true colors. You’re a big man until the hammer falls and then you’ll try anything you can to try to get your way out of it … even acting like a decrepit old man.